How to Navigate a Meal in Italy, from Choosing the Restaurant to Tipping

A meal in Italy is a little ritual, one that every restaurant tweaks to make its own.

We all know Italians love food, and love to go out to eat. Otherwise, why would we travel to Italy?

In short, you’ll be going to restaurants, and you’ll want to know how to get the most out of the experience. So, at Devour Rome we’ve put together a guide to ordering in Italy, so you can escape the anxiety of making those typical tourist mistakes, and return to the anxiety of deciding which pasta you want (don’t worry, we’ve all been there!).

Ordering in Italy isn't so hard once you have an idea of what to expect. Our guide will show you everything you need to know.

Photo Credit: Abbie Stark, Text Overlay: Devour Rome Food Tours

1. Finding a Restaurant

A tip: if a restaurant has a big, multilingual menu on a poster outside, and/or someone trying to coax you in, go in the other direction. This is most likely a tourist trap, and they’re quite common near monuments and in city centers. Do your research and find a well-regarded place where Italians actually want to go, without someone needing to convince them to step inside.

On that note, once you’ve got your restaurant picked out, it’s always best to make a reservation ahead of time. Many restaurants will turn you away without one, because meals are leisurely and therefore they have no way of telling you when a table might free up.

2. When to eat

Italians tend to eat both lunch and dinner later than Americans. Most places open for lunch around 12:30, get really busy around 1:30, and finish up around 3:00. At dinner, the restaurant might open at 7:30, but doesn’t start to fill up until 8:30 or 9:00.

Generally, the further south in Italy you go, the later people eat. A good rule of thumb? Reserve at 1:00 for lunch, and 9:00 at dinner.

Before ordering in Italy, you should know that the timing of your meals is very important when it comes to eating like a local.
Italian meals are long, leisurely affairs, so plan your time accordingly.

3. Drinks

When you sit down, the first thing the waiter will ask you is if you want acqua naturale or acqua frizzante. The former is still water, the latter sparkling (both will be bottled, as Italians think tap water is uncivilized for a restaurant).

He’ll also ask you about wine. If you want the list, ask for the carta dei vini. If the house rosso (red) or bianco (white) is more your thing, you can get either in a quartino or mezzo carafe (quarter or half liter).

When ordering in Italy, knowing your wines can come in handy.
Italian wine is always a good idea.

4. Understanding the menu

At many restaurants, they’ll hand you a written menu, divided into antipasti, primi, secondi and contorni (more on those below). However, this is Italy we’re talking about, so it’s never that simple.

A lot of places will have specials written on the blackboard, or rattled off by the owner of the restaurant when she comes to greet you. There’s also the distinct possibility the waiter will just name a few dishes he thinks you should get, without even giving you a menu. In Italy, where restaurants are viewed as homes rather than businesses, this is considered as a sign of hospitality.

5. Appetizers

Italians tend to not eat very elaborate or composed dishes as antipasti. Instead, you’ll find cured meats and cheeses, marinated vegetables, bread and fried things.

Some typical plates are sliced prosciutto with mozzarella, bruschetta (toasted bread with anything from tomatoes to truffle), and fritto misto vegetale (a mix of fried vegetables). All are usually meant to be shared.

When ordering appetizers in Italy, be sure to remember that you'll be sharing them among those at your table.
Sharing is caring when it comes to appetizers like bruschetta.

6. First courses

Primi are first courses, which means starches. The obvious one is pasta, which comes in hundreds of varieties around Italy.

In the south, it tends to be dried pasta, served with vegetables or fish, whereas the north places more emphasis on fresh pasta with meat or butter. In the north, you tend to also find more rice, made into risotto. Soups like minestrone (mixed vegetable) and Roman stracciatella (chicken broth with beaten egg) are also here.

Primi are not usually shared, so if you want less, you can ask the waiter for a mezza porzione (half-portion).

Cacio e pepe, one of the most popular Roman pasta dishes, likely began as a humble shepherds' dish.
Pasta is traditionally served as a first course. Photo credit: Whitney in Chicago

7. Main Courses

Like with antipasti, secondi tend to be very bare-bones, with just a portion of the chosen protein and a little sauce.

Where you are in Italy determines the offering. In Florence, you’ll find bistecca alla fiorentina, a giant porterhouse steak priced by the etto (100 grams), and always served rare. Near the sea, there will be lots of fish, cooked alla brace (on a wood grill), served with just some lemon and parsley.

Sharing main courses is common, so if you want it like that, just say da dividere.

8. Sides

Contorni are side dishes, usually whatever vegetable is in season, simply prepared.

Romans and Florentines like to eat greens like chicory, spinach and bieta (chard) with meat. The greens are usually ripassati, meaning they’ve been boiled and then “repassed” in a pan with olive oil.

All throughout Italy, you’ll find patate al forno (roasted potatoes), and insalata (mixed salad, meant to be dressed with oil and vinegar at the table).  

9. Dessert and more drinks

Italian desserts are often al cucchiaio, literally “by the spoon,” meaning they’re served in little glasses and meant to be eaten with the titular utensil. The waiter might bring you a menu, but equally likely she’ll gesture to a refrigerated case that contains individual tiramisu, macedonia (marinated fruit salad), creme caramel (flan) and millefoglie (puff pastry layered with cream). Or, you can get a slice of a simple cake like torta di nonna (pie crust with pastry cream and pine nuts). Fresh fruit is always available, especially ananas (pineapple), for which Italians have a perverse love.

After dessert you can have an espresso (never a cappuccino). And only then are you ready for a digestivo. It could be limoncello (lemon liqueur), grappa (made from grapes), or an amaro (alcohol steeped with spices and flavorings).

First things first when it comes to ordering coffee in Italian: when in doubt, go with espresso.

10. Tipping

When you’re ready for the check, just ask for il conto. But when it comes, should you leave a tip?

The answer is yes, but not like in America. Italians consider tipping to be a nice little addition to, rather than an integral part of, the bill. Usually, you round up to a whole number and leave your waiter the change. So, if the bill is €92, leaving €100 is perfectly okay.

And no, contrary to popular belief, the staff will not be offended by tipping. They’ll warmly thank you, and maybe even offer you another limoncello before you leave.

You know how to navigate your meal like a real Italian, but that’s just the beginning. Live like a born-and-bred Roman for a full morning on our Testaccio Neighborhood Food & Market Tour, and you’ll come away with an even deeper understanding of what it means to do food like a local here in Rome. From breakfast at a local cafe, to a stop at the local market where Romans grocery shop, to a traditional lunch and so much more, this experience takes you off the beaten path and into everyday life here in the Eternal City.

10 Comment

  1. Carol Van Gorp says
    May 17, 2019 at 3:52 pm

    I will be in Rome with my daughter in September (1-15). I am signed up for the food tour. If you add any other tours, sign us up!

    1. Ashley Duncan says
      May 21, 2019 at 2:14 pm

      Amazing, Carol, we can’t wait to see you here! We’re working on another tour in Rome, so we’ll send you an email once we have it up and running!

  2. November 4, 2019 at 9:16 am

    Great blog!
    Thanks for sharing this blog.

    1. Devour Tours says
      November 5, 2019 at 7:59 am

      Thanks for reading, Janik!

  3. January 28, 2020 at 7:22 am

    Interesting post, I am really shocked after knowing the lunch timing of Italian, why they always eat after Americans?

    1. Devour Tours says
      February 3, 2020 at 8:04 am

      Thanks for reading, Shivam! According to our Italian team members, the later mealtimes have to do with the working hours traditionally observed by Italian farmers. They would stay out working throughout what Americans consider to be “lunchtime” because it still wasn’t too hot yet, then when the temperatures started to rise later in the afternoon, they would head inside to eat. We hope this helps!

      1. March 16, 2020 at 10:05 am

        Quite Interesting!

        1. Devour Tours says
          March 16, 2020 at 2:27 pm

          Thank you!

  4. Becca Johnson says
    February 5, 2020 at 2:51 am

    Thank you thank you thank you. My family are touring Italy in November. We are excited and looking for good food as our family love food. However we love local joints. Those are the best.

    1. Devour Tours says
      February 6, 2020 at 11:25 am

      Thanks for your kind words, Becca! Have a wonderful time in Italy with your family—we hope to see you if you find yourselves in Rome!

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